Comments for Ask the JoyDiva™ http://askthejoydiva.com The support you need to express your truth, love who you are...and see your relationships thrive. Ask your questions here. Wed, 15 May 2013 01:51:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on Why Is It So Hard for Me to Accept That My Boyfriend Loves Me? by Bullied as a Child: How Can I Trust in Intimate Relationships? | Ask the JoyDiva™ http://askthejoydiva.com/2012/01/18/why-is-it-so-hard-to-accept-that-my-boyfriend-loves-me/#comment-376 Wed, 15 May 2013 01:51:48 +0000 http://askthejoydiva.com/?p=108#comment-376 […] And if you were to go back and get really clear on what actually happened in your past, (ie. My classmate called me fat, ugly and stupid) and then the story you may have created around what happened (ie. My classmate hates me, she said that because there’s something wrong with me, everyone hates me, I really AM fat, ugly and stupid, people think I’m undeserving of love, etc.)…the more you separate out the story from what happened, the more you will be able to take responsibility for the meaning you added to those experiences, and set yourself free. The wonderful thing about life is that all kinds of stuff happens, and WE get to be the ones who make meaning of it. At any time you can choose to shift your reality based on how you are choosing to perceive it. At anytime, you could choose to open up your heart and know that no matter what the other person does or does not do, you will never leave you, you will always be there to love and support you. (another one of my posts that has great wisdom in it for you: http://askthejoydiva.com/2012/01/18/why-is-it-so-hard-to-accept-that-my-boyfriend-loves-me/) […]

]]> Comment on Why Is It So Hard for Me to Accept That My Boyfriend Loves Me? by thejoydiva http://askthejoydiva.com/2012/01/18/why-is-it-so-hard-to-accept-that-my-boyfriend-loves-me/#comment-347 Tue, 19 Mar 2013 17:40:34 +0000 http://askthejoydiva.com/?p=108#comment-347 Hi Beautiful,

One of my favorite quotations that I am holding close to my own heart right now comes from Fritz Perls, founder of Gestalt Therapy, “Fear is excitement without the breath.” As the fear creeps in with your new found awesomeness, just remember to breath and feel your heart expanding to fill you with goodness and then, let it go. With every simple breath you can expand your capacity to receive goodness from yourself and the world around you. Remember that you can have everything that you ever wanted when you choose to give it to yourself–by saying no to anything that does not feel like a yes within your heart, by having patience for what you do want to present itself, and then by saying YES! to that which brings you alive. You deserve Mr. Wonderful AND you deserve to be true to your own heart…and you get to have both as you continue to honor yourself!

You are never alone. You are always supported. You are always loved. Celebrating you and your new expansion! xo :) Melissa

]]> Comment on Why Is It So Hard for Me to Accept That My Boyfriend Loves Me? by NH http://askthejoydiva.com/2012/01/18/why-is-it-so-hard-to-accept-that-my-boyfriend-loves-me/#comment-346 Tue, 19 Mar 2013 17:03:36 +0000 http://askthejoydiva.com/?p=108#comment-346 This just helped me so much. Thank you for writing it. I have a new amazing boyfriend and I can’t believe he likes me because he’s so wonderful. I’m not alone in this. I am working on loving myself. Thank you thank you thank you.

]]> Comment on I’m Afraid to Show My Boyfriend I Love Him…Can You Help? by thejoydiva http://askthejoydiva.com/2012/09/19/im-afraid-to-show-my-boyfriend-i-love-him-can-you-help/#comment-262 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 20:55:35 +0000 http://askthejoydiva.com/?p=212#comment-262 Bless you, Luanne. I’m glad I can be of support.

]]> Comment on I’m Afraid to Show My Boyfriend I Love Him…Can You Help? by Luanne http://askthejoydiva.com/2012/09/19/im-afraid-to-show-my-boyfriend-i-love-him-can-you-help/#comment-249 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 14:15:07 +0000 http://askthejoydiva.com/?p=212#comment-249 I REALLY needed to hear this today! Words to live by.

]]> Comment on What is the Source of My Jealousy & How Do I Make it Go Away? by thejoydiva http://askthejoydiva.com/2012/01/19/where-is-the-source-of-my-jealousy-how-do-i-make-it-go-away/#comment-107 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 02:26:23 +0000 http://askthejoydiva.com/?p=118#comment-107 Thank you for your comment, Emma & your article recommendation. xo

]]> Comment on What is the Source of My Jealousy & How Do I Make it Go Away? by Emma http://askthejoydiva.com/2012/01/19/where-is-the-source-of-my-jealousy-how-do-i-make-it-go-away/#comment-106 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 02:09:30 +0000 http://askthejoydiva.com/?p=118#comment-106 I really enjoyed this article! I tend to be a fairly jealous person myself and am very interested in figuring out what my jealous feelings say about myself and how to most effectively deal with these feelings. I recently read another article on this topic that had some really valuable information about the causes of jealousy http://www.psychalive.org/2011/09/are-you-the-cause-of-your-jealousy/, I highly recommend it.

]]> Comment on My Boyfriend No Longer Appreciates Me…What Should I Do? by thejoydiva http://askthejoydiva.com/2013/01/24/my-boyfriend-no-longer-appreciates-me-what-should-i-doe-what-should-i-do/#comment-96 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 19:44:34 +0000 http://askthejoydiva.com/?p=242#comment-96 Hi Lovely,

I’ve so been in your shoes, and I’m really excited for what you’re going to discover when you give yourself the gift of your love and attention. So many amazing things coming your way with these simple steps! xo

]]> Comment on My Boyfriend No Longer Appreciates Me…What Should I Do? by joanne http://askthejoydiva.com/2013/01/24/my-boyfriend-no-longer-appreciates-me-what-should-i-doe-what-should-i-do/#comment-94 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 12:05:45 +0000 http://askthejoydiva.com/?p=242#comment-94 Thank you so much for your response, I will work on those assignments. I do not treat myself the way I should and need to. I have some work to do on myself and will get started.

]]> Comment on My Husband Has Become Abusive…What Should I Do? by thejoydiva http://askthejoydiva.com/2012/12/22/my-husband-has-become-abusive-what-should-i-do/#comment-70 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 01:53:39 +0000 http://askthejoydiva.com/?p=234#comment-70 Bless you, Amy. Thank you.

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